Chances are, if you’ve given online dating a try, either you’ve been ghosted or you yourself have done the ghosting. Not familiar with the term? Ghosting is basically when a relationship or dating has stopped with no communication or explanation as to why it has stopped.
There are a lot of reasons why people ghost. They might be worried about hurting the other person’s feelings or are scared of conflict and having difficult conversations. Breaking up isn’t easy, but that doesn’t mean ghosting should be your go-to way of ending a relationship.
Even if you hate confrontation, there are alternatives to ghosting. Know that you will have to have the conversation, but there are ways to make it easier on you. Firstly, you can practice with a friend. Sit down with a friend and try the conversation you are planning to have on them. This can help ease your anxiety, and you may get some helpful feedback.
If you absolutely refuse to have the conversation in person, consider a phone call as an alternative to meeting up with someone. Having the conversation in person is usually best, but a phone call is definitely better than ghosting. At the very least, you can send a text. While texting certainly isn’t the optimal way to end things either, some sort of communication is better than none at all. The person you’re breaking up with deserves some sort of explanation.
Note that ghosting does not refer to escaping situations and relationships that don’t make you feel safe. Always remember your safety comes first, and don’t let other’s feelings get in the way of that. Also, if this is case, reach out for help if you need it.